Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for nearly six months. About four months into our relationship, I finally introduced her to my mom. They seemed to hit it off and had a lot to talk about, but shortly after that my mom confided in me that she didn’t like her. She had a whole list of things she didn’t like about her, from the way she did her makeup to the fact that she worked for herself.
I think my mom is being ridiculous, and I am really happy. However, my mom is my mom and I don’t want to alienate her. Not sure how to work through this issue!
A: Well this situation sucks doesn’t it? My answer is simple: What your mom thinks has merit, and I suggest you take a close look at your girlfriend and try to evaluate your relationship from the outside. If you do that and still find you are happy and unconcerned with your mother’s misgivings, then let it go. I sense that your mom really loves you and wants what is best for you.
If you are truly happy, she will pick up on it and hopefully be happy for you as well. In the meantime, if you think this relationship is serious and you are in it for the long haul, I encourage you to have them spend some time together. If your girlfriend is right for you, then your mom will be able to find something about her that she loves.
Your life will only get easier when the women in your life like each other. Do your part to make that happen.
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