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Ask Officer Michelle – New Girlfriend Causing Problems with Parents

Posted by ur0n3n0nly

I have a gf who I have known for 3 months. We had met online 3 months ago. I am actually a lesbian and my parents don’t approve me being a lesbian and dating a girl. I am 22 years old and my gf is 23. My dad took out a restraining order against my gf on my behalf for 3 years without my consent. My parents are doing everything to keep me away from my gf. I would like to go live with her but my parents aren’t letting me. They have also put false charges on my gf. I want to leave my house today if possible. I have couple of questions regarding this.1. I’m scared to leave my house in front of my parents. Can a police officer come and get me out?2.What can I do to have the restraining order be removed and the charges be dropped?

Dear urOn3nOnly,

Being that you are over the age of 18, you are considered an adult. As an adult, you have the right to date whomever you want. It sounds as though your parents are just worried about you. I don’t know the whole story, but I see a few red flags waving. The first is the “online” relationship. How well do you really know this woman? You say you have only known her for 3 months and already there is a restraining order associated between the two of you. The county doesn’t just dole restraining orders out without good cause and corroboration. If you want the restraining order removed, and the charges dropped, I would talk to the Public Defender or the attorney handling the case.

There are deeper issues here that I am not qualified to give you advice on. I can tell you that the Sacramento Gay and Lesbian Center may be able to help you. Check out their website at http://saccenter.org. The Center is an organization that has resources for Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual/Transgender people. They are located at 1927 L Street. They are available Monday through Friday, and their phone number is 442-0185. They have a legal clinic and counseling services you may find useful to you.

Good luck,
Officer Michelle

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