If you don't know heart and soul that you are "in love" then you are not. This doesn't mean you can't build a great life together. But you are clearly young so there's no point committing to the effort. A soul mate may come along, a soul mate may not. The only certainty is exactly what Janna says: Make no decisions in fear. Instead, make decisions in love. In other words, if one of you finds other people attractive, then as an act of love the other one can encourage the exploration. If you truly care for each other, and are mature enough to handle the emotions, then you will be happy when your friend is happy. Discard ego, and follow your heart.

Funny. My kids are 20-ish and I am definitely less conservative than them. But I'm not sure they know that, hence these kids interviewed might not know their parents either. Their parents grew up in the 60s and 70s so you never know. My mom (83) would totally dig Burning Man. My father (85) would only find it kind of pointless. Of course, the trip would kill them. Where would I never taken them? Anywhere that tolerates people who think "gangster" as adjective is a compliment.

Where / when at Burning Man? Either I missed them, or I was oblivious, or both!

Maybe I'm mildly Asperger's but I couldn't help noticing the misspellings and comma misuse in this article. Does no one edit anymore? Also, we are told "Dr. Solomon became hostile and terse" when asked about non-pharmaceutical alternatives, with no follow-up as to why or how the interview was resolved. That said, Asperger's is an interesting phenomenon and awareness certainly needs to be raised. So many people classified in negative terms would be happier and more productive if their loved ones are given tools and a little awareness.

Leidesdorff also has the distinction of opening the first hotel in what would be San Francisco, and of bringing California's first steamboat, disassembled in the hull of his ship. It was terribly underpowered, but it worked.

Will they give a restraining order just on your say-so? Officer Michelle implies they will, but that cannot be the entire story, else impatient exes without coping skills would be pursuing them like free candy. This is not a comment on the letter writer, who I think should just call the cops on the home intruder. Is that not also an option? Also, if a tenant told me her ex had been shacking up off-lease for two months, I would act immediately, and not necessarily on just him.

Big journalism fail! You should have summarized the policy at the very beginning. Instead you require every reader to take a detour through some link. I won't do that. I still don't know what the policy is and I really don't care. I'm just annoyed at whoever wrote this.

You lost me at zoot suit. Those were street gang attire in the 1940s. The tour organizer wearing that would be like doing say a 1950s diner tour in Angel Flights.

Great subject for an article. (Would have been useful to note the location not just by address, which makes one googlemap it, but by mentioning it's the one at 50 and Bradshaw.) I too hope the drive-in never dies, but I can't complain if it does as I rarely go. Last drive-in I went to was the Sunrise, which is now a housing development. But back in the '90s they had dollar-a-car night and we took our small children. It was fun to watch a movie under the evening sky and let the kids fall asleep stretched out in their jammies just like at home. My earliest drive-in memory is from the years shortly after my parents' divorce when Mom would take us somewhere, anywhere. I still vaguely remember watching The Pink Panther from the backseat of our Rambler station wagon. That would have to be 1963, and I was five.

Just that he calls himself a libertarian and dislikes both parties is a big plus for me. Will watch this space.

It's heartening to witness the younger generation rising to sweep away the misapprehensions of the old. Young people tend to be more pro-gay because they are more familiar with the reality of homosexuality, rather than the lies and fears spread in former times. It's amusing to witness the press trying to make an event out of the non-event of Phelps and his fellow idiots NOT showing up. Since they never made it, why mention them at all? But the outpouring of support for humanity that the counter-protests morphed into is worth mentioning.

Phelps is not a fascist. He's a religious nutcase. Tea-baggin' (if you mean the tax protestors, not the, uh, you know what) has nothing to do with being pro- or anti-gay. I think you are trying to conflate two entirely separate things in order to confuse matters.

Agree w comment. I knew nothing of this until today, the 15th. Oh, well, to be fair I haven't read Sac Press in two weeks ...

Went shopping down in there last weekend. The continuing death of inner cities will not stop soon. Few potential customers live near there and general business simply doesn't run anymore in such a way as to encourage centralization in aging environments. We'll continue to visit from the burbs though if they keep it interesting. Old Sac is a plus. Hm. Instead of refinish the freeway they should have torn it down, with a reroute around West Sac. I-5 is a knife in Sac's heart.

"It won't hurt to call." These guys will naturally assume that it was the neighbor who asks them to turn down the volume who ratted them out. They should be discouraged from drinking and driving, but don't be unwise about your personal safety.

I'm unable to resist local history. A quick web search yielded this about the Flora. Name: FLORA Type: Sternwheeler Size: 141' Launched: 1885 Destroyed: 1932, Brodrick, Calf. fire that took a score of old riverboats. Area: California Delta Rivers Comments: Played the part of the "DIXIE" in the second version of the movie Huckleberry Finn. I enjoy Old I and will look for a chance to get down there this month.

My dad is 83, and much better organized than I ever will be. I see him slipping away, though, in infinitesimal steps, visible only when I remember two years ago, or five. Our relationship is complicated too, but I guess I've become a friend to him, now that he needs me to be one. As executor I will encounter similar items made at the front of his life that suddenly don't matter anymore. It's a matter of curiosity how I will feel about that.

Finally, someone on here who can write! This was a moving story and very well done. I believe the dream remains very much alive, but it has been deeply damaged by bank and lender practices, and especially by the dream being oversold, as though property ownership were some sort of right. It is not. You have the right to earn it, and keep it if you can. But none of that mitigates the pain of loss and my heart goes out to Megan, who reached for the dream, grasped it for awhile, and felt it slip away.

There were protestors at Sunrise and Greenback yesterday (Jun 25), I'd say about four or five dozen. I had to say, the sight of people waving the Iranian flag and getting honks of support from Americans was not something I expected to see any time soon. That said, Mousavi, though his election would have shown Iran's system to be functional despite its deep flaws, is not much of an improvement over Ahmadenijad in terms of bringing Iran back from the brink. There's no point viewing him as any kind of true reformer. But he does represent slow, evolutionary change, and that is the best kind.

I was noting the similarities between Lincoln and Bush, in terms of public perception, while the Iraq War was going its worst. The fact is that leaders are not remembered for how people felt about them when times were dark any more than for the end-results of their decisions. If present and future American presidents occasionally put our might behind the global drive for liberty, and this helps cement a global desire for it (most recently exemplified in Iran), then Lincoln's experience of being reviled while serving and lionized afterwards will not be unique.