I caught my husband opening up secretive email addresses and looked at the history of his computer time. He has profiles and accounts on almost every dating site. I recently caught him texting and calling a number in Georgia. At first I thought it was relatives who live in the area. Then "she happened to call and he would not pick up the phone or answer the message in my presence. I later found texting backing forth between the two of them. He and her both stating they miiss each other, love you, can't wait to talk to you, call me soon, etc.... He blew up of course when I confronted him. I got her number off his phone and called and confronted her. She lives in another state clear across the country. She denied of course it was nothing more than friendship. He said they do not speak anymore but he keeps his phone next to him. I have secretly checked it and he has now gotten smart and erases all his calls. personal and work. There is never any activity on it now. He says they are just old friends but why haven't I ever heard about her? He says he loves her as a friend. He has crushed my heart and I don't know for sure if he isn't calling her and just erasing it. I cannot forgive him and I hate him at times. He says since I have many health issues that she helped him through his grief of his father dying, grandma, and favorite uncle within a year span. He is a me me me person and can be very verbally, emotionally abusive. We have a daughter together and that plus finances is what is keeping me home. I do not sleep with him and in fact we haven't slept together in years. We do have sex but since his father passed he is very difficult to be around. He has promised to go to counseling but has not yet due to work schedule. I am going however and it is making me stronger. So when I do leave which I don't see a lot of hope because of how he is I can be stronger for myself and our daughter.