Lately we have all been hearing about the dangers of cell phone texting while driving. People have been killed or seriously injured because of drivers’ distraction from the road. In fact a new law in California prohibits texting while driving because of such accidents. I for one have been guilty of this now criminal offense in the past, and must be very careful not to even think about doing it while I am behind the wheel. Recently, I have become aware of a new danger inherent to texting. Tha... Jak wantmyhusbandback comment-42773 2010-12-28T17:44:48Z 2010-12-28T17:44:48Z I have an unusual situation. My husband is having a text emotional affair with our marriage counselor, He told me he sees nothing wrong, but he hides the texting. Sometimes they text each other 11 times a day. He is obviously in love with her and she continues to flirt and encourage his "love letters." I went to her for 6 months then brought him in for a couple appts. Then she did some private therapy out at her house and this started. Then she abandoned me as a client. She also sends him pictures of herself (not suggestive, but still). Financially I can't leave now. I feel so powerless. wantmyhusbandback 2010-12-28T17:44:48Z hurt70 comment-42770 2010-12-28T16:50:10Z 2010-12-28T16:50:10Z I have been dealing with this myself. I work in the tech field, and hate what text messaging and facebook has brought. My wife guards her phone like Fort Knox. It goes to bed with her, bathroom when she showers. I caught her last summer texting an ld boyfirend from highschool, I threatened to leave and she apologized and then i caught her again. Now on XMAS day I see that she had been texting a guy she works with and used to go to grade school with. I wrote her an email and enclosed this link. I am so hurt! hurt70 2010-12-28T16:50:10Z Headstrong123 comment-40831 2010-11-17T16:03:11Z 2010-11-17T16:03:11Z Just this am I found an account sent via email to my husband saying he has a wink,it gave me the screen name he used and what is really sick is that he used my nickname as a password to log on to this dating site.All trust is gone, I am a homeschooling mom of 4 and I am too smart to let this man just dump me and the kids financially( which is what he did to the other ex and kids) So my plan...play stupid, take what I can , collect evidence, get a lawyer and get out with my head held high and my bank account filled! These men now a days just want their cake and eat it too. He can have his cake!! It'll will be dry and he will have NOTHING to wash it down with! Headstrong123 2010-11-17T16:03:11Z KLD comment-25316 2010-04-21T18:17:19Z 2010-04-21T18:17:19Z My husband accidentally left his email open at his workplace. I had to go there to drop something off to him. So I thought while I was there I would check my email. When I typed in the web address for my email account, his email was right there. I saw that someone had been sending text messages from a cell phone to his email. I didn't have a chance to open it but when he noticed I was looking at it he tackled me to the floor. I was very upset. I know this is wrong and invasion of privacy but I downloaded a keylogger onto our home computer and retrieved the password to this email address. I was at work when I checked that email address. His female coworker was sending naked pictures of herself and also videos of herself to his cell phone and in turn he was sending them to this email. I confronted both of them, they both claimed it was a joke. This weekend my best friend came to my house to visit my children and I. She said to me, "You are my best friend and I would never hide anything from you." She proceeded to show me text messages that my husband was sending her. Very Sexual in nature. So, I set him up. I had another friend of mine text him. While she sat next to me, he was sending her naked pictures of himself and telling her that he loves being married to me but I am not into sex like he is and that is a big problem for him. I told her to send him a message back saying that she really wants him and she would pay for a hotel room. He told her that he would pay for one or she could just come to our house. I am sick....He is abusive in everyway. He accuses me everyday that I am cheating on him. I know he must have slept with his female coworker and god knows how many others. I have dealt with this for years. I have lost all my friends, I have lost my heart and soul. One more thing....He is a well know Police Officer. There is much more to this story but I would be writing a book. The worst thing is that I know he feels no guilt for doing what he is doing. He told my friend that he always erases his messages before he comes home and he also told her not to text him until after 4 pm when he is at work. Every morning before I go to work he looks me in the eyes and tells me That I am the love of his life, that I am so beautiful, and other crap....How does someone look you in the eyes and lie. KLD 2010-04-21T18:17:19Z loveydovey comment-7308 2009-05-07T03:06:40Z 2009-05-07T03:06:40Z I caught my husband opening up secretive email addresses and looked at the history of his computer time. He has profiles and accounts on almost every dating site. I recently caught him texting and calling a number in Georgia. At first I thought it was relatives who live in the area. Then "she happened to call and he would not pick up the phone or answer the message in my presence. I later found texting backing forth between the two of them. He and her both stating they miiss each other, love you, can't wait to talk to you, call me soon, etc.... He blew up of course when I confronted him. I got her number off his phone and called and confronted her. She lives in another state clear across the country. She denied of course it was nothing more than friendship. He said they do not speak anymore but he keeps his phone next to him. I have secretly checked it and he has now gotten smart and erases all his calls. personal and work. There is never any activity on it now. He says they are just old friends but why haven't I ever heard about her? He says he loves her as a friend. He has crushed my heart and I don't know for sure if he isn't calling her and just erasing it. I cannot forgive him and I hate him at times. He says since I have many health issues that she helped him through his grief of his father dying, grandma, and favorite uncle within a year span. He is a me me me person and can be very verbally, emotionally abusive. We have a daughter together and that plus finances is what is keeping me home. I do not sleep with him and in fact we haven't slept together in years. We do have sex but since his father passed he is very difficult to be around. He has promised to go to counseling but has not yet due to work schedule. I am going however and it is making me stronger. So when I do leave which I don't see a lot of hope because of how he is I can be stronger for myself and our daughter. loveydovey 2009-05-07T03:06:40Z Paul Cox comment-4356 2009-03-10T18:00:05Z 2009-03-10T18:00:05Z I'd have to say that first off, if someone is on Match.com and looking around, chances are that they're not all that faithful to begin with. It doesn't help much that Match.com's tagline is "It's Ok to Look", almost inviting that spouse or significant other to test out the waters, especially if they're inclined to cheat. I've had the same thing happen to me. He should cut it off. Now. Cancel the phone, have her move out if she's moved in. The problem with cheating, emotional or otherwise, is that the trust is destroyed. Trying to gain back that trust is hard and can be impossible. I had an ex cheat on me and 3 years later I would still wonder who they were talking to online, on the phone, etc. It gets old constantly worrying, and it gets annoying for the other person that you're checking up on them. Even though they pretty much brought it on themselves. In this day and age it's very easy to flirt by text or IM, playfully. It's when it's taken further that some form of emotional cheating has taken place. And oftentimes that can be even worse than actual cheating. Paul Cox 2009-03-10T18:00:05Z